Monday, November 15, 2010

Bedtime Manipulations

I am sure every parent has had trouble at bedtime with children manipulating the system and trying to squeeze out a few more waking moments from the day.  If you haven't battled this time of the day or aren't anymore, please let me know what you're doing.  We have a very set routine for the twins.   Bath, PJs, Teeth, Books, tucking in.  Even the tucking in process has to be sequenced perfectly.  Blankets in order, animals in their places, each parent has to give a kiss, and then bye bye's and blown kisses at the door.   I am okay with this night time routine.  It is what comes next that makes me want to pull all my hair out.  
   The Excuses begin.  Here is how it has gone so far tonight as I am sitting her typing this.  First, Jae says she has to pee pee.  I let her go because we are trying to get her to stop peeing in her night diaper.  Then, I have to re-tuck and Daddy has to come back into the room to kiss her.  He tried to protest this request tonight and Jae was besides herself carrying on, so Daddy caved.  Then, Kaden claims to have to pee pee.  I lecture him about lying and he just lays his head down and gives up......UNTIL he thinks of his next idea....."Poo Poo, Mama.  POOOOOO POOOOO!"   I ignore this and Daddy goes in and tells him to lay down and that Mama is asleep.  Now, I can hear them talking and laughing in twin language right now, probably plotting their next stale tactic.  What will it be next, will they pull the old, "Agua!  Agua!  MAAAMAAA, AGUA!!!"   Another one that they try frequently is kicking off the covers and then saying "Uh, oh,  Oh no," and crying it out until they get us to cover them back up. Sometime they sacrifice their snugly.  Sacrificial lamb takes on a new meaning her.  Her little lamby gets rocketed out and then she screams just so we will come in and give it to her.  Kaden has been known to do the same with his little Giraffe.   Sometimes they try to request new never slept with before toys or animals, as if their cribs are not crowded enough as it is.   That's right, I said cribs.   This bedtime game is so hard that we still keep the twins in cribs.  I think I am the only mom I know that still has kids this age in a crib.   I need to get this bed time chaos fixed by the new year, because that is the date we have choosen to start them in beds.  I have no idea where to start with this.   I am completely open to any ideas on this one.  They share a room, fight bedtime, and ometimes they play across the room in their cribs for an hour before they fall asleep at nap time and bedtime.   This will definitely be a challenge.  If anyone has ideas for me, let me know. 

5 comments:

  1. This made me laugh so hard! I'm sure I'll be calling you when Alexander is a bit older for advice on bedtime :)

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  2. I can't believe that Jae would throw Lambie out to get you to come back in!!! HILARIOUS!
    We have gone through a lot of the same stuff with Avery in the past 4 months. She is in a big girl bed....and I hate to tell you....but the big beds are a whole 'nother ball of wax because they can GET OUT and open the door! We tried lots of different things....but tough love is what worked. Yep, I had to yell, threaten, and be mean. HATE putting her to bed like this, and I only had to get hard core one night...but it worked for Avery! Once we got her to go to bed...the problem was staying IN the bed. She would get out and walk around the house in the middle of the night....MORTIFYING! That is why we had to drop the nap, she was WAY too awake in the middle of the night. Now she knows that she can't come out and get us til the sun is awake. And she has lots of books and toys in her bed that she plays with until it wakes up. The book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby gave us lots of good tips for making the transition! Best book EVER. GOOD LUCK. God speed.

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  3. Christine....happy this amuses you. :)

    Kristy...will check out the book. I think we will have to end up doing the tough love thing. So are you saying Avery no longer naps or are you just shortening her nap. I am totally interested in this and I am a little scared of not having this nap break in the middle of the day, but I am ready for a solution, so please let me know exactly what you do.

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  4. Our pediatrician told us, when Ben was this age, and pulling this same stuff....to install a gate on his door. He was in a bed by then though so he could get into it himself....but the gate helped. He could get out of bed and see us, talk to us, but the "door" was shut and if needed, we could go talk to him and give a hug over the gate, then tell him to go back to bed.

    Not saying it was perfect, still plenty of shenanigans, but it did help.
    Just a thought.

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  5. This is so interesting:)

    my blog cribs for twins, thanks.

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